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Try some of the following ways to comfort your baby. Some may work better than others:

• If you're breastfeeding, let your baby suckle at your breast.
• Having some gentle noise in the background may help distract your baby.
• Some older babies like to use a bit of cloth or a blanket as a comforter.
• Hold your baby or put them in a sling so they're close to you. Move about gently, sway and dance, talk to them and sing.
• Rock your baby backwards and forwards in the pram, or go out for a walk or a drive. But limit how long your baby sleeps in a car seat to up to 30 minutes for newborns and up to 2 hours for babies. Even if they wake up again when you stop, at least you'll have had a break.
• Find something for them to listen to or look at. This could be music on the radio, a CD, a rattle, or a mobile above the cot.
• Try stroking your baby's back firmly and rhythmically, holding them against you or lying face downwards on your lap.
• Undress your baby and massage them gently and firmly. Avoid using any oils or lotions until your baby's at least a month old. Talk soothingly as you do it and keep the room warm enough. Some health centres and clinics run baby massage courses. For information, ask your midwife or health visitor.
• Try a warm bath. This calms some babies instantly, but makes others cry even more.
• Sometimes too much rocking and singing can keep your baby awake. You might find lying them down after a feed will help.
• Ask your health visitor for advice.

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Some babies cry and seem unsettled around the time of a feed. If you're breastfeeding, you may find that improving your baby's positioning and attachment helps them settle.

You can go to a breastfeeding drop-in group and ask for help if there's one available in your local area.

The Breastfeeding Network's website can provide information on the nearest group to you.

You can also ask your health visitor for advice.

Crying during feeds can sometimes be a symptom of reflux, a common condition where babies bring back milk after feeds.

Speak to your health visitor or GP for more information and advice.

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There are several reasons that can cause a baby to cry excessively.

It can be exhausting if you have tried everything and nothing seems to comfort your baby.

Colic

Excessive crying could be a sign that your baby has colic. Everyone agrees that colic exists, but nobody knows what causes it.

Some doctors think it's a kind of stomach cramp. The crying sounds miserable and distressed, and stops for a moment or two, then starts up again, which suggests it could be caused by waves of stomach pain.

The crying can go on for some hours. There may be little you can do except try to comfort your baby and wait for the crying to pass.

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Colic is when a baby cries a lot but there's no obvious cause. It's a common problem that should get better by around 3 or 4 months of age. But call NHS 111 or see a GP if you're worried.

Check if your baby has colic

All babies cry, but your baby may have colic if they cry more than 3 hours a day, 3 days a week for at least 1 week but are otherwise healthy.

They may cry more often in the afternoon and evening.

It may also be colic if, while they are crying:

• it's hard to soothe or settle your baby
• they clench their fists
• they go red in the face
• they bring their knees up to their tummy or arch their back
• their tummy rumbles or they're very windy

It can start when a baby is a few weeks old. It usually stops by the time they're 3 to 4 months old.

If you're not sure it's colic:

There are other reasons why your baby may be crying.

It could be they:

• are hungry
• have a dirty nappy
• have wind
• have reflux
• have constipation

If you're not sure what's wrong, it's best to speak to your health visitor, call NHS 111 or see a GP to be sure.

Things you can try to soothe your baby

Your baby does not usually need to see a doctor if they have colic. Speak to your health visitor for advice and support.

Health visitors and doctors will usually advise you to:

• hold or cuddle your baby when they're crying a lot
• sit or hold your baby upright during feeding to stop them swallowing air
• wind your baby after feeds
• gently rock your baby over your shoulder
• gently rock your baby in their Moses basket or crib, or push them in their pram
• bath your baby in a warm bath
• have some gentle white noise like the radio or TV in the background to distract them
• keep feeding your baby as usual

Other things you may hear about include:

• anti-colic drops and herbal and probiotic supplements
• changes to your diet if you're breastfeeding
• applying gentle pressure to your baby's spine (spinal manipulation) or skull (cranial osteopathy)

But there's very little evidence these things work. Speak to your health visitor for further advice.

Non-urgent advice: Call NHS 111 or see a GP if:

• you're worried about your baby's crying
• your baby has colic and nothing seems to be working
• you're finding it hard to cope
• your baby is not growing or putting on weight as expected
• your baby still has symptoms of colic after 4 months of age

A GP will check for possible causes of your baby's crying.

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If your baby's crying constantly and you cannot console or distract them, or the cry does not sound like their normal cry, it can be a sign they're ill.

Or they may be ill if they're crying and have other symptoms, such as a high temperature. If this is the case, contact your health visitor, GP or call NHS 111.

Call 999 and ask for an ambulance if your baby:

• has a fit (seizure or convulsion)
• has blue, mottled, ashen (grey) or very pale skin
• is unresponsive, floppy or not waking up as easily as usual
• breathes rapidly or makes a throaty noise while breathing, or seems to be working hard to breathe, perhaps sucking in their stomach under their ribcage
• is being violently sick a lot (projectile vomiting)
• has a high temperature, but their hands and feet feel cold
• has a spotty purple-red rash anywhere on the body – this could be a sign of meningitis

Find out the signs of serious illness in your baby

Trust your instincts. You know what's different or worrying behaviour in your baby.

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If you think your child is unwell and you are thinking of attending Alder Hey's Emergency Department, please use their symptom checker first. Use the tool to find information on several of the most common symptoms in children requiring urgent care and decide where best to get the right care for your child.

You can talk to a friend, your health visitor or GP, or contact the Cry-sis helpline free on 0800 448 0737. It is open 9am to 10pm, 7 days a week.

Cry-sis can put you in touch with other parents who have been in the same situation.

You can also visit the Cry-sis website for information on coping with crying babies.  

If you decide to talk to your health visitor or GP, it can help to keep a record of how often and when your baby cries.

For example, this might be after every feed or during the evening. This can help your health visitor or GP to work out if there's a particular cause for the crying.

Keeping a record can also help you identify the times when you need extra support. You could think about possible changes to your routine.

There may be times when you're so tired and angry you feel like you cannot take any more. This happens to a lot of parents, so do not be ashamed to ask for help.

If you do not have anyone who can take care of your baby for a short time and the crying is making you stressed, put your baby in their cot or pram, make sure they're safe, close the door, go into another room and try to calm yourself down.

Set a time limit – for example, 10 minutes – then go back.

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No matter how frustrated you feel, you must never shake your baby. Shaking moves their head violently and can cause brain damage.

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